Relationships and social bonds are a direct link to happiness for the majority of people. People who engage in close friendships, relationships and social ties tend to be happier people in a general sense. Maybe it’s because they have someone to count on or because they feel as though they belong to something or someone. Everyone needs someone they can confide in with all the different directions life takes you through. So this blog post will be dedicated to friendships. Some friendships will last a life time without work, some will take work to make things work. Great things take time and effort. And it seems as though the things worth having in life don’t always come easy. I’ve always struggled with relationships. I’ve always been to quick to cut ties and hold grudges for things that aren’t even worth ruining friendships. I often find that my stubbornness and pride have a direct effect on my friendships. Why do people let silly little disagreements ruin relationships that took time and effort to build? I have no idea, but I won’t let it affect anymore relationships if I can help it! You can’t control how others react to things in life, but you can control how you handle them.
Sometimes you have to take time to rebuild the things that have been broken. I find that with a certain friend I’ve had through most of my important years of growing up, we have had our share of falling outs. We stop talking for a reason so small that by the time we make up we can’t remember what set us apart to begin with. LET THINGS GO. If you’re not going to remember it in a month or even three months from now, why even make a big deal about it! Whenever I do regroup with this friend, I feel as though I’ve never missed a beat, no matter how long we fell out of touch for. We know each other. I know how she operates, I know when she’s happy and I know when she isn’t. This is why they say, ” The best mirror is an old friend.” I am a firm believer in this, for when I do see, I see nothing but the great times we had growing up. Some people like to make excuses for friendships falling apart like, ” some people grow up and apart, it’s a part of life.”Well if you’re okay with that answer, good for you! But I’m not happy settling with some people grow apart! Not when you have a say in it and you have a clear opportunity to make a difference. Great people don’t come walking into your life everyday. So make sure when a great person does, you fight for them. At the end of the day, setting aside your pride for your happiness is more important than you feeling like you proved your point or you made yourself clear. When you look back and realize you let little things like a disagreement change a friendship that could last a lifetime, how will you feel? Was being right worth losing a friend. I believe everyone you come into contact serves a purpose to your life. Whether or not you like them or don’t they’ve taught you something valuable either about yourself or life, or possibly both.
The days are long, but the years are short. Make sure you’re enjoying life to the fullest. Make sure you don’t take anyone for granted. Don’t let people go without a fight. Don’t worry about always being right, because if that’s all you focus on, you’ll be the one losing. Sometimes being right, isn’t as important as Doing what’s right. Don’t allow stubbornness and pride keep you from finding people to share your life with. Do make sure you let those people in your life know how important they are, before they’re gone. Ironic enough the person who inspired me to write this blog gave me my first, ” Friends Forever,” book when we were 15 years old. I’ve never once misplaced the book or thought of throwing it away, even through our tough times. I always kept it right next to the scrap book she made me when we were 16 for Christmas. It’s because deep down I always knew friends like these don’t come around often and I’ve always thought of her as a sister I wasn’t fortunate to have.